|Honesty is... the what?
||[Jan. 22nd, 2004|12:46 am]
No One Really
Time for another not-very-well thought out ramble.
When do you tell the truth? I'm not saying... when should you tell the truth (yet), I'm saying when do you tell the truth?
When it's the truth?
When you think it won't hurt someone?
When you think it will help you?
When you think it won't hurt you?
I would like to think that I always tell the truth, but I know myself too well for that. I try to avoid hurting people like anyone else.
... you know... I have a lot to say about this. And I'm far too tired. Maybe tomorrow.
Ergh... there's a splitting point here between "truth" and "disclosure". I think you can be completely honest while holding back information, so long as you don't proclaim to be completely open. I'm tired too :P
truth is in the eye of the beholder... if you get good enough at lying to yourself, you no longer have to deal with these questions...
hell, i'm not sure i even really believe in "honesty" anymore, atleast in the purest sense of the word... anything short of a complete, perfect replication of whatever is trying to be relayed isn't entirely honest. there's so many goddamn colors and shades to everything you say and do, that even if you think you're being honest, you're apt to be misread atleast slightly, if not tangibly... people get false impressions when told true things all the time... distortion of perception is a fact of life.
i guess it really boils down to intent. if you're trying to be a good person, if you're trying to do what's best for your friends, does the rest really matter?
2004-01-26 11:05 am (UTC)
gothic lament ^_^
I am struggling with the same issues right now. My current thought is that you should always tell the truth, unless it is more harmful to do so (in the long term) than not to do so. (What is "harmful"? Harmful to whom? Depends on your philosophy, I suppose.)
There are several caveats, however, the foremost being (IMO) that there's often more than one way to tell the truth, particularly hard truths, and one must be diligent in doing so in the least harmful manner. I fucked that one up yesterday, and it's got me thinking about all these things. Maybe the winter's just getting to me.
I should just cave and get me one of these LJs, shouldn't I?
i maintain that ljs are bad for the soul, and i'd be a much better person if i had never gotten one... it's kind of like heroin, except i can't quit it...